While it is a good idea for Massachusetts parents to assure their kids that they are not responsible for the end of their parents’ marriage, the kids still need more information and assurance than that. This is the prevailing advice, but it also tends to mean that children are told that the impending divorce has nothing to do with them, and everything to do with their parents. Sadly, the divorce does have a lot to do with the children since their lives will change in numerous ways. Parents can help their children successfully survive the divorce through the child custody plans they make.
Children will probably have plenty of questions for their parents. They want to know how their lives are going to change. Which parent will they live with? Will they have to move? Will they still have plenty of time with both parents?
When parents tell their children that they just do not love each other anymore, it may cause at least the younger children to wonder if their parents could stop loving them as well. All of these conflicting issues will go through a child’s mind at some point. Parents may need to take steps to respond to them.
When parents approach their parenting plan, they can answer many of these questions for their children. If Massachusetts parents put aside their personal issues and take control of the situation, it may provide the children with some sense of security that their parents remain the adults in the family dynamic. They need to know that their parents are taking steps to keep their lives as normal as possible.
Making the transitions that will inevitably need to occur can be done as smoothly as possible. Parents can work together and with their children in order to reduce the amount of stress, confusion and fear that accompanies a divorce. Making child custody arrangements that work for the family could go a long way toward giving the kids what they need in order to move forward.