Some sources say that bird nesting works well for many families, at least on a temporary basis. This child custody arrangement seems to help children adjust to the fact that their parents are divorcing. It could also help Massachusetts parents figure out a more permanent arrangement without having to immediately decide what happens to the marital home.
While the parents rotate in and out of the marital home, the children stay put. The parent who is not with the children lives in a shared space, or in his or her own separate residence. The children get to remain in their schools, play with their friends and sleep in their own rooms. They don’t have to keep track of their things as they go between two homes. This provides them with at least some sense of continuity and security during an otherwise uncertain time.
Of course, this arrangement only works if the parents can get along. Since the parents continue to interact with each other, this point is probably not up for negotiation. Even though parents can work together for the sake of the children, they should put their bird-nesting plan in writing. This way no one has to guess what will happen and when. In addition, if either parent has an issue with the arrangement, the agreement can be consulted for a resolution.
Depending on the circumstances, some Massachusetts parents may find this child custody arrangement could become permanent. Others may decide that while they do not want to continue bird nesting, they may live as close together as possible in order to spend as much time with the children as possible. This could minimize the disruptions to the children’s lives while allowing each parent to have his or her own space. No matter what the parents decide for the future, this arrangement may still provide a viable temporary solution.